![]() Has the thing you are afraid of happened before? To you? Or to someone in your family? How likely is it to happen again? Have you talked to anyone about this thing? Probability: List all the reasons ‘why’ you’re anxious.Get honest with yourself: What is it that you’re anxious about really? And underneath that anxiety…? What’s the worst that you can imagine happening? Try saying it in very simple child-like words and short sentences (because underlying fears often come from our childhood so we need to talk to ourselves in that language).We are mammals we’re designed to seek safety with others if you can.īut conquering those underlying fears we all have but rarely take time to work through take a bit longer. Connect – make contact with a trusted friend.Breathe in for 5 and out for 7 – this calms the nervous system.This keeps us here and now and helps stop our mind wandering into past or future. Say what you see – look around you and voice out loud what you are seeing.Much has been written on coping techniques. Whether it’s a 10 metre jump or the final tiny inch of a long and painful path, this small step forms a leap of spirit, of bravery, that proves to ourselves that we can do it - we just have to acknowledge first why we don’t. Whatever our method, this film shows how time and time again in all their different ways big and small, humans conquer their fears.Īnd like in this film, conquering always involves some kind of step. “When we voice our fear, its power lessens” Perhaps to peer over, again and again to normalise things first, get used to the idea. Once we’ve acknowledged what it is really that we are anxious about, and say it out loud - then often we find it’s power lessening, and we have more choice in how to deal with it. Here’s what’s great about the Ten Meter Tower film: in all its real, human, empathic jubilance it proves to us that fear can be conquered. Anxiety is something we all have to go through at some point.īut if we don’t acknowledge and begin to do something to address our ongoing, recurring fears eventually they can escalate through the downward spiral. ![]() Anxiety is normalĪll of these fears are of course totally normal. Like when we’re afraid of a relationship because we’re afraid to commit, because we’re ultimately afraid of making a choice, or being rejected or trapped, or finding - and therefore potentially losing - someone we really love. Fear that there’s something wrong with us. Some of our most powerful fears are the deep hidden ones, the ones we don’t even know are lurking. Or we fear that we’re weak and can’t cope, therefore we run or overcompensate by playing “superhero”, or by bullying others to assert our power. Perhaps we’re actually intimidated by someone, or we’re scared we are inadequate therefore we try too hard to prove we’re not. They’re signs that we are overcompensating for some fear we have. When we dominate or behave arrogantly, these can be misinterpreted as signs of a strong character. So often when we’re acting “weirdly” or when we’re “stuck” and not taking any action at all, it’s our anxiety that’s at play, pulling invisible strings in the background of our brains and hearts. Very often our fears have a consequence they result in action, or inaction. This means they can be hard to uncover and to shake off – but it’s certainly not impossible. ![]() These deeper anxieties, often about who we are, underlie regular generalised anxiety. Our fears often involve a hidden message - something we picked up in childhood. (Will I lose my job? Will she leave me? Will I get stuck in this lift? Will I ever be in love? Will my family get sick? Will this dog bite me? Will I be OK? etc) Underlying fear – from the past messages were taught, anxiety about ourselves and who we are, and of the unknown, the future.when we see a snake, or jump at a loud bang. ![]() If it’s there stopping us speaking up, making us put things off, procrastinate, or obsess. Living our full potential is hard if we let fear control us.
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